A perfect example of the unrealistic message of a photo is this image of Bob and I as happy couple looking as if life is so perfectly wonderful. Read on to know my life reality.
First off, I want to share with you all that my life after 2 months of a major transition involving both downsizing and relocating to another state is finally coming together to be all I had hoped it would be. Nevertheless, in this post I want to share with you all the untold additional pitfalls I have experienced and my unexpected challenges in this life transition.
Fatigue, Weight Gain, Interrupted Sleep Patterns, Unhealthy Eating, Not Exercising
Most of these pitfalls listed are directly related to eating poorly. I kept giving myself a pass saying “Mitzi, you deserve to eat fast food, have the ice cream, pastries, and etc. because you do not even know where all your pans and dishes are. What lies we can tell ourselves to justify our behavior? It becomes a self-defeating behavior of repeated lack of will power. Except when I was in the pit of confusion on who I was or what my role is now, it superficially appears as survival mode.
My reality is that I am back to eating healthy, to sleeping better, to my normal weight, and walking almost daily. As you would imagine, taking charge of my physical routine has affected my entire well-being big time. I have that bounce in my step and my smile now is a genuine smile that reflects my inner joy of my new life. And as my way cool late mom would say, I have my mojo back!
Emotional Roller Coaster
This one really threw me on how long it has taken me to get my act together and get out of that pit that often resembled depression. I knew logically that missing my friends, my design clients and my design business plus my home that I dearly loved kept me stuck.
However, the time length of my major brain fog threw me off my normal organized, make it happen motor butt self. You all would have laughed if it weren’t so pathetic in arresting my progress on a myriad of levels. Many of you know that I am a woman of faith which I never, ever wavered from believing that this move is exactly where we are supposed to be for our life stage. This realization eventually led me back to truly celebrating our life choice. If you read my book, you will glean the real reason of the why we made this decision to move to NE Ohio.
Now, here are the tangible realities I faced in our downsizing, relocating move that I hope will help any of you that are planning to downsize and or relocate.
1. Expect and accept that mistakes will happen in your calculation of what will work, space planning wise. Since space planning is one of my strengths as a designer, whoa, this really frustrated me that my plan didn’t work in our converting the dining room into a TV den. Enter plan B and we love it.
2. Expect to make changes in your original ideas of what you thought you would like. For instance, I thought we would have a TV in our bedroom and wired an outlet for it. However, I changed my mind on this decision after the fact. So what that extra expense happened, giving myself the grace to accept my miscalculation helped me let it go.
3. Accept the fact that you will bring to your downsizing home way more than you thought you wanted or could find places for it. We have estimated that we have probably a fourth of what we packed, moved, and unpacked will be given away or maybe sold.
4. Expect that the endless number of items needing decisions on what to do with them seems to multiply with each box unpacked. We had to just let go of all of this overwhelming and tiring unpacking for another day or time. This was our best decision to accept what so many others told us, it will take time! I am now good with this break from it all giving me new motivation and excitement to really organize our new beautiful home and life.
My hope writing this post is for any of you that will be experiencing these major challenges I listed to accept it all as part of your journey. It simply is that simple. I wish you all the very best in your futures. Regardless if you are staying in your home or making a major move as we did. Enjoy your journey with all the unexpected challenges and issues because in the end, it really will not matter.
Love to you all in all your life stages and life journeys.
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