3 REASONS WHY DOWNSIZING OR A RELOCATING MOVE IS ONE OF LIFE’S THREE GREATEST ISSUES

Of life’s hardest issues, I had always believed that this theory was an over exaggeration that moving ranks third with understandably a death being number one and a divorce being number two. But moving being a third, how and why so? Read on………

First of all though, please understand that I am NOT diminishing the huge life tragedy of death or divorce. To all of you beloved followers, I would never undermine or compare your struggles with my challenges of our major life transition.

But for my recent experience, I can now speak to why downsizing and or relocating is actually number three of life’s major challenges, especially for the O50s. This is because for us O50s, moving and or relocating is a Lifesizing® issue, not merely a downsizing issue. You see, Lifesizing® incorporates the physical, mental, and emotional aspects of life, of these life challenges of downsizing, moving, and relocating.

THE PHYSICAL REASON 

Most of you know that I have been a wellness guru for a very long time by eating healthy (most of time) getting exercise, along with striving to live a balanced life with sleep and stress control.

Well, most of that went out the window with our downsizing, packing, unpacking, and basically starting over. Now granted we did all this in our early 70’s but still, it kicked our butts physically! 

The positive side of this challenge? We were way ahead for our age being physically able to endure all that our move required of us. Anyone of any age needs to acknowledge the physical drain of a life transition such as we did. This is another huge reason why I am such a promoter of taking super good care of ourselves physically to be able to handle any of life’s challenges regardless what they look like.

Distributing furniture to our “adult kids”

ANOTHER PHYSICAL REASON

Our healthy eating took a major dive mainly because the kitchen was not set up right away. And then who knew how challenging it would be to learn how to shop entirely new grocery store options? As a foodie and as a cook, I was more than out of my comfort zone, I was actually uncharacteristically dismayed.  More importantly though, my overall nutritional wellness was very compromised which made my physical recovery thwarted even more. 

Even with my awesome family helping set up my kitchen, it still took awhile for me to know how to function in my new cooking world.

However, the positive side of this food challenge was that Ohio is a mecca for fruit and vegetable markets overflowing with the freshest produce that I have ever seen or tasted. And the flowers, be still my heart!

Image of all local produce which tastes  amazingly flavorful unlike store bought produce!

THE MENTAL REASON 

Where do I start on the mental challenge of this huge life transition? The biggie of course was connecting with a high- level melanoma specialist for Bob. In my last post, I shared how thrilled we were with UPMC in Pittsburg, PA less than an hour from us.

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A huge mental drain was determining: 

Primary care doctors

Eye doctor

Dermatologist for skin check ups

Dentist

Plus, 

Hair stylist…. major challenge!

Banks for accounts & etc.

New Insurance policies in Ohio

Legal and financial advisor

And the list goes on…. 

The positive side of this mental drain was eventually feeling a huge sense of accomplishment establishing these all new medical and other services. 

ANOTHER MENTAL REASON

Organizing our new home…..oh my! This took forever which definitely surprised me and if truth be known, were still at it although very close to finally saying we did it! I will definitely expand on this in another post.

The positive side of this major mental brain drain is that life just keeps getting better and better through having less with downsizing, but also with experiencing less stress with better organization.

I am loving this simpler life! And yes, I am still a shoealholic 🙂

EMOTIONAL REASON

There was only one emotional reason for me but this one was a biggie! I took a major emotional dive missing my identity as an interior designer AND missing all my friends and connections in Wichita, KS.

Special friends will never be replaced or forgotten!

The positive side has been connecting with long time high school friends plus meeting new friends that will become special to me given time to make our own history together. Plus, I am blessed to have my sister close by and other family as well.

These are very special Salem high school friends and me doing our silly girlfriend thing at a recent reunion.

Was it worth it all? You betcha!

Now that we are almost settled in, we are having the time of our lives. We absolutely are in love with our new home, our quiet and peaceful neighborhood, wonderful church, exploring new places, and of course, being near family.

My ultimate reason for writing this post was to give you all a heads up if a move is in your future, whether local or otherwise. For you to gain additional knowledge is a powerful tool to facilitate all aspects of your life. The more you know, the more you can prepare yourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally.

And that my dear friends is purely Design SMARTS!

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16 Comments

  1. Linda Merrill March 7, 2020 at 10:33 am

    My parents did their major downsizing (Rightsizing?) in their late 50’s preparing for their old age by moving to a much smaller house with mostly one-story living. A true blessing why my Dad had a stroke in his mid-70’s but despite being handicapped afterwards, was able to live in his home for the rest of his life. And when I had to sell the house and dispose of everything when my Mom passed, it wasn’t as onerous because they always had the future in their minds-eye.

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    1. Anonymous March 8, 2020 at 10:05 am

      How wonderful Linda that you’re parents we’re so proactive in both their housing needs and their downsizing.
      I’m sure you’re aware of all the other types of parents that one, ignored their needs and two, kept everything!
      We ask ourselves in debating our own downsizing, will our kids be frustrated with us if we don’t spare them going through our stuff after we’re gone. It really helps us.

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  2. Rosie Bennett March 7, 2020 at 10:57 am

    I have experienced many of the things you talk about. I began my moving adventures many years ago. After 14 moves I will say it does get easier. Thankfully Mitzi you were there to help with my last two😁 Miss you and love your blog.

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    1. Anonymous March 8, 2020 at 10:06 am

      Oh Rosie, how wonderful to hear from you but also that I made your moves a bit easier.
      Thank you for reading my blog and I miss you because you are one of the sharpest women I know. XO

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  3. Lisa Peck March 7, 2020 at 11:16 am

    I’ve watched my older relatives down-size or right-size and the work and challenges are as you describe! I am continually trying to work on culling down our things so it will be easier when we want to make this move! Thanks for your wisdom

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    1. Anonymous March 8, 2020 at 10:12 am

      How fortunate for you Lisa that you’ve had these role models to emulate.
      Truth… even though Bob and I thought we had downsized tons from being married then almost 50 years, oh boy. We realized we moved about 30% too much and then had to deal with it

      You’re a wise designer lady and I have no doubt that you will be proactive when it’s your time to get really serious.

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  4. Diana S Walker March 7, 2020 at 1:54 pm

    Wayne’s youngest brother, my brother-in-law passed away in November and to his credit he was the family historian. My help with getting my sister-in-laws to prepare for and host a sale before painting and renovating the house to sell in a desirable location cannot prepare you for all the stuff one stashed and keeps beyond any reasoning. This was a hard thing to tackle. Tomorrow I go to help with the rest of what I can do. It’s been handled more by the sisters and less by us as we live 3 hrs away. So number one Before anyone tackles the House is put together a list of all the needs (vendors, painters, and other experts) we had 2 organs in the house, one large and 1 smaller. The small one sold. It is amazing how many people wanted an organ.. no body we knew so perhaps getting the hard to sell items first to area churches or musicians to identify who could be the new owner of that Organ!
    I learned also on the secondary Market there’s lots of interest in
    1) cords to older machines
    2) albums ( don’t sell the covers silly billy) to our joy, we discovered Jerry went to garage sales and bought tons of classical masterpieces and older albums with pedigrees. I sent my dad 12 albums of fiddle and guitar music from all his favorites. These things need to be investigated as to vintage and sold online or to reputable companies. A 6 piece set of Elvis was in mint condition and sold handsomely for more than we would have known about. So you never know when you will find treasures.

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    1. Anonymous March 8, 2020 at 10:18 am

      Wow Diana, great insight on preparing for the inevitable which is none of us will live forever.
      And yes, as I’ve mentioned, Bob and I still moved many unnecessary items that made our setting up our downsized home even more challenging.
      If we want to spare our families, we will indeed bless them by sorting and distributing our items NOW.
      Thank you for commenting Diana!

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  5. Leslie Carothers March 7, 2020 at 5:43 pm

    Mitzi,

    Thanks again for an insightful post about what you went through in this major move. I can completely relate. I have had to move quite a bit since 2008, and it is never easy to *reset*, but I am so glad you and Bob are finally feeling more settled in there in Ohio, and that you are establishing new friendships and getting to see old high school friends.

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    1. Anonymous March 8, 2020 at 10:28 am

      Thank you Leslie for understanding my post as you and I know by experience, this is a many layered challenge.
      My reason for writing posts on this topic is that moving or relocating either alone or being an O50 has different issues like loss of identity and etc.
      I’m was not emotionally prepared for that aspect so I hope these posts will enlighten others that it’s more than a physical endeavor.

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  6. Christina Rodriguez March 7, 2020 at 6:20 pm

    Moving is definitely not for the faint of heart! its one id the reasons that the last time we moved was twenty years ago. No thank you!

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    1. Anonymous March 8, 2020 at 10:31 am

      I hear you Christina!
      You have expressed why moving is third of life’s greatest issues.
      But life will and does happen which is exactly why we did what we did.
      I appreciate your verifying comment.

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  7. Janet Lorusso March 7, 2020 at 8:56 pm

    I’m in ostrich mode with regard to moving…I visited my attic recently and told my daughter I’m going to have to die in this house because I don’t think I can ever move! Blessedly, it is not a large house, and I have slowly been cleaning out and editing different areas, but still, there is SO MUCH STUFF and much that I’m not quite ready to part with yet. There IS great appeal in simplifying and I am much more circumspect about acquiring – everything new that comes in needs at least a corresponding thing (or three) to leave! Congratulations on persevering in your transition to a new and wonderful adventure!

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    1. Anonymous March 8, 2020 at 10:34 am

      Well Janet, it appears that you are so much further than you give yourself credit for in being cognizant of your “stuff”

      And your theory of not accumulating is another indication of how you’re ahead of most.

      Your daughter will thank you!

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  8. Sheri Bruneau March 9, 2020 at 3:29 pm

    I have watched and participated in my parents’ downsizing. I am glad they did it when they were (and still are) in great health. I can see how much more they enjoy life (and not worry about the yard work, etc.). It’s been a blessing to see them so happy in their villa.

    Mitzi, thank you for taking us along on your journey. Wishing you and your family all the best.

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  9. Amy Wax March 9, 2020 at 8:37 pm

    Having relocated in the best couple of years, it is a huge life change, you are so right Mitzi! This was a great post, I enjoyed reading every single word of it!

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